Who Told You You’re
She said, "Who told you you're naked?"
I was sitting at Urth Caffe in Pasadena last Saturday at a two-top with my closest friend of the last 23+ years, and when we're together, we break the matrix. I was catching her up on my life, and without realizing it, I was bringing my limitations to the table.
I couldn't even hear, see, or recognize them. They were just flowing out of my mouth.
The beauty of sitting with someone we trust who's clear and able to mirror back what's in our blind spots (I'm gifted at this for others, just not for myself) is that I was able to see where I'd forgotten who I am and let some other thing, person, or belief have authority over me.
No, thank you, ma'am. I'm not having any of that.
Here's what happened.
I told her about what's been happening in my business this year, and despite all the work I've done to evolve and expand Soul Forward Method, I told her how I find it challenging to accurately describe and market what it is, even to the exact women I know are looking for it and would fucking thrive once they go through it. I said, "I feel like I'm talking about magic beans. It's like this kind of healing is so foreign their minds can't grasp it. It's like it's invisible or something."
She then pulled up a story from the Garden of Eden to mirror my state. She said, "When God entered the garden and found Adam and Eve with fig leaves for clothes, he asked them why they were covered up, and they said, 'Because we're naked,' to which he responded, 'Who told you you're naked?'"
They had everything. They were in the Garden of Eden, for crying out loud. They were whole and uncovered, worthy and living the most abundant kind of life. And then something happened, and they allowed this thing to change them. They allowed this thing to dictate how they were now going to navigate through life in their garden. It programmed them around what was "acceptable" and "appropriate."
She drove it home when she said, "Heidi, who gave you these limitations? Who told you that these women can't understand you? Who told you that you have to market and speak in a specific way for them to understand and come in? Who told you you can't create a thriving business while living on a healing Moon Node in Bend? Who told you that your funnel has to be built in a specific way to work? Who told you that you're naked and need to do things according to someone else's beliefs or rules? Eff that. You make the rules."
And just like that, I remembered what I teach and who I am.
I know that everything in our lives is a manifestation of our creation (and let's take it further, our limitation is a manifestation of our creation).
We are the creator and co-creator doing a beautiful dance together. When we lose the steps and trip ourselves up, it's often because we've let our eyes wander over to someone else and how they're doing it.
We start following other people's rules, and we're meant to create our own (and by rules, I mean freedom).
I immediately shifted my thoughts to: when I speak, people listen, and they hear me. My voice resonates at a place deep within them. They understand what I'm saying and trust what comes up for them as they do.
I've spent the last six days in a state of suspended animation, reprogramming my beliefs and taking inventory of other places where I've got other people's voices or rules in my head, limiting my life, my health, my relationships, my business, my finances, my impact. I'm cleaning house (and I already have a very clean house).
My question to you is, where are you letting someone come into your own home (your mind) and tell you that you're naked and need to do things differently? Where are you allowing others to limit you? Why did you position them as an authority? Is it time to take that authority back (which is a lot quieter and more embodied to do than you might think)?
When you catch a thought, statement, or belief that might be limiting you, ask yourself: "Says who?"
You are a limitless being, and it's time for you to remember that you are.
I see you.