Ask Harder

Asking harder just got easier.

Let me tell you a story about last week. I had a very uncommon situation come up in my relationship that was one of those moments where I could see exactly how high the bar is set to be with me.

Let's back up for a hot sec while I give you a brief history.

As a newborn, I couldn't breastfeed, which equated to being a burden to my family in my subconscious. So I developed an anxious, fearfully avoidant attachment style. So I didn't have a boyfriend til I was 29. And then married him (and he was, and is, a paraplegic, so guess who was never going to be a burden... I thought I'd hacked my attachment style!).

You can imagine I was not calling the shots or asking much of my first boyfriend/husband. I was just grateful someone found me "worthy enough" to be with. I did as my peers did and became my husband's "help-meet." Cooking, cleaning, schlepping boxes of books, building bookstores, having babies (IVF), etc., until I gave my last f*** (which was when I was halfway to adrenal failure and wishing I wasn't on planet earth anymore).

Then I dropped into a portal of healing that began with my divorce, led me to Human Design and beyond it to becoming a hypnotist, which allowed me to heal in a way that created space for my spiritual gifts to turn on. And then I channeled Soul Forward Method, which raised my consciousness to 5D.

Back to the present.

So, as you may know, I found the greatest love I've ever known in my fiancé, Aaron, eight years ago. It's so good it's ridiculous, and it still has its growth edges because both of us are dialed into our purposes and are constantly evolving, which evolves our sacred union.

Last week, there was an interruption in the ease. It was a moment to see where we weren't aligned as something was introduced into our dynamic. He wanted to do things one way, and I'd already gone to the future, seen what happens, and came back to say, "Nah."

That "nah" is one that came out pretty strongly and equally as easily. I didn't have to think about it because I know things (claircognizant, insanely intuitive, splenic authority, all of which I've always had but didn't fully understand or trust til I healed). I didn't give an inch. What I know came through me and my voice instantaneously.

I'm not (nor have I been, as I've birthed this modality into reality over the last four years and learned how to build the business that supports it) easy to be in partnership with. My personal evolution has been on crack for our entire relationship. I'm no princess, nor am I a queen. Aaron has been an extraordinary part of how I've gotten to where I am because of who he is, how he loves me, and our soul contracts with each other.

But even knowing all of that, and being infinitely grateful for it, I have no problem with how high the bar I've set is in our relationship. And if it's not hit, I will go without the relationship.

Big words, I know.

But it's actually so clear and so easy for me to see where I'm unwilling to go against myself and what I know anymore. Losing a relationship I love is nothing compared to losing my relationship with my soul.

I'm not normal. I do maverick shit. It's called sovereignty.

These moments when we're called to see beyond what the human wants to what's at stake are like solar flares that illuminate the situation and burn away what can't stay.

They're not comfy, but they're badass. They're just showing us who we are in that moment. Are we still in old patterns or are we comfortable in the new ones?

I'm thrilled to share that we navigated through this experience quickly and with higher minds at the helm.

My "ask" gets easier because I'm asking harder. Not in volume or with harsh words, but because I'm asking from the higher part of myself, who knows more than the humans.

Asking harder might look like a boundary that you're so fully behind it can't be budged. Or it could be a standard with a partner, spouse, friend, or client. Maybe it's actually your soul asking your human harder to trust it, heal what separates you from it, let it come forward.

Last week was a moment where I saw just how much I've evolved, and it's beyond anything I ever imagined. And this is exactly what I help humanity do. We heal and leave 3D consciousness to ascend to higher planes, and it changes this whole being human thing in the best way possible.