The January Is Tapping Out Round-Up

Abundance and scarcity paraded through my life in the most interesting ways this month. Fascinating, really.

As we bid adieu to January, I'm taking a little inventory of some bigger things shown to me before I embark upon my favorite month of the year.

I just returned from a quick trip to Los Angeles that had been originally planned for the week the fires took place. One of my clients had just moved into a brand new apartment in the Pacific Palisades a month before and had barely begun living there when she had to evacuate. I drove into the heart of the wreckage to help her, and it looked and felt exactly as you would have thought based on what the news was showing. Miraculously, her all-white apartment and furnishings were untouched by the fire, and only a few things had smoke damage.

What struck me as I spent time with her was her relationship to her possessions. When we came across something that needed to be discarded, she didn't hesitate for a second about the fact that it was a brand-new, higher-end item she'd just purchased. She would simply say, "It's trash." I watched her calmly make decisions that someone with scarcity programming would have struggled to make. And she did it without a shift in her emotional frequency. What I tapped into was her abundance mindset. She's wired subconsciously that there's always money available. Everything she needed to get rid of could be replaced with absolute ease because there's always more than enough money.

Contrast this with another client who had been evacuated from the Sunset fire (but her home was not close enough to it to have experienced any damage). As I sat with her for a few hours, I heard story after story of how she has no money, has to borrow from her mom, how her grown children charge up her credit cards, how a friend stole all her jewelry, and how she's had to sue all kinds of people for random things.

These women have extremely (*extremely*) wealthy parents and grew up in abundance. One continues to stay the course with her abundance mindset, and the other has veered off into an abundance of scarcity.

I worked with a third woman who has an insanely wealthy family, and though she has access to incredible wealth, she's gone on to become a screenwriter (she's written movies you've heard of or have seen). She's been programmed with an abundant mindset around wealth, purpose, and passion. She's making her way forward, building her own wealth and career.

It was fascinating to be so close to each of these women and to have an intimate view of how they circulate their wealth (in how they live their lives, contribute to society, furnish their homes, dress, eat, etc.). Two were flowy. The other was white-knuckling her shame.

My takeaway was that we can thank or blame our parents for a lot of our subconscious programming around wealth and money, but it's malleable for better or worse as we grow up. Just because someone is raised in wealth doesn't mean they become good with it or keep it. It doesn't mean they were also programmed to go out into the world and have an impact.

Two women felt really good to be around. They were steady, calm, grateful, kind, driven, and excited about life. They were aligned not just with their comfort with wealth (it's not even something they think or talk about because they're forward-facing) but with who they are. The third felt staticky. She couldn't hold a frequency. There had to be drama about her circumstances inserted into every exchange. Her relationships with her children, husband, and mother were all taxed because she operates out of scarcity at all times, and between us, she's brilliant and entirely in her own way.

Being aware of the stories we tell behind the curtain of our mind shines such a bright light on why we're where we are, how we got there, and how we might get out of there (or expand it, if we love it). I pulled beautiful lessons from each of these women. Some showed me what I wanted to lean further into. Others showed me what I didn't want. All were so valuable.

Our scarcity mindsets aren't limited to money. We can live in scarcity of love, health, relationships, purpose, permission. But when we identify where we're in scarcity or lack, we've been given a gift to know where we're meant to bring some intention to our self-evolutionary process.

As always, Soul Forward Method's doors are open and Reflection Sessions are always on the menu. Let's get you out of your own way, stable in beautiful frequency, and dialed into your purpose and calling.