Hit the Gym. Tell No One.

Hit the gym.

Tell no one.

This was an IG post that came across my page, and I immediately giggled because it was so good. I totally got the essence of what the author was after here.

I loved the nod to do something for yourself and not shout it through a megaphone. Gone are the days of performance for brownie points for showing up. We need people to do what they say they're going to do, or do it first and then maybe mention it.

Can you imagine committing yourself to something that's just for you (your health, self-care, guitar lessons, singing lessons, becoming a lawyer, etc.) and then having someone notice or comment on it? That moment is priceless. It's just straight-up extra, because you didn't do it for the high-fives or to wow people. You did it for yourself.

I love the secretive vibe of tell no one.

We used to have a running joke inside SFM where I was going to get branded sweatshirts made that read: Soul Forward Method™ I can't talk about it. And now I'm basically going to borrow this new line and make it: Soul Forward Method™ Tell No One.

Something magical happens when you do deep inner work and tell no one. I have clients who still haven't told their husbands they did the work, and it was years ago. I also have clients who do it with their husbands. You get to choose your adventure over here. Either way, something magical happens.

Your external world will reflect back the changes you're making within, because it has to. You're energy and so is everything around you. It's so fun to have it reflected back to you, but kind of especially when the person doing the reflecting has no idea you're doing deep work.

I've got a few things I'm currently doing and telling no one. Partly because it's new and I'm not sure how long I'll stick to it. I'd rather try it and see if I like it for a while before I share about it. Not even Aaron knows what I'm up to.

Another reason is that it's nice to do something beautiful that's just for me and my soul.

I'm coming up on my 48th birthday this Friday, and I'm so excited about being only two years out from my 50th that I made a 24-month paper chain to count down the months. Every 13th of the month, I'll tear off one of the paper links and see my progress towards the last link on 2/13/28.

I think this two-year countdown is part of what's inspiring me to do some tell no one stuff. I have big dreams for my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond, and there's a lot I want to do now to become the woman who can live those dreams out.

These things I'm doing are daily habits I'm building into my life. If I don't add them in, I'll remain in the same cycles and habits, and though they might be good, they've only brought me this far. And I dream of going further.

No one's going to change my habits for me. No one's going to build my dreams for me. I'm going to do it myself, and then people will show up to help as I make my way. But the first steps are on me, because no one can show up to help if I'm not advancing the dream first.

So allow me to step into my boots and start walking.