Increasing Our Capacity To Better Help Others

I Don’t Talk About Hard Things

[Video Transcript]

I don't talk about hard things. I don't talk about heavy things very often.

Even in the work that I do, I will take you into those places that are heavy and that you want to avoid. But I do it in a way that allows you to immediately come back into something that is elevated and authentic to you.

But I'm going to talk about something that is heavy today, because I keep becoming aware of men in their 40s, who, from the outside, have tons of influence and beautiful careers and beautiful wives and children and families. Yet, they are choosing to leave their human experience.

And when I first received this, it came into my awareness through a post on Instagram. The news came to me through a message, and I experienced a shift in my emotional energy.

Emotional Energy

There are macro emotions that come with that sort of disbelief or sadness. But it's so intricate, that when you get past the macro, there are micro emotions that exist in learning that someone has left by their choice; leaving in the wake of that decision, all of these broken hearts and confusion.

For some reason, I've had three experiences recently where people I don't know have chosen to do this. And I've had a very specific emotional response. And in sitting with the micro emotions, I’ve had a minor sort of intricate dis-regulation of my emotional energy.

Someone I don't know, choosing to do this, has led me to shift my perception and my understanding of the work that I do. I have a new way that I'm processing things, the way that I'm taking ownership of things. And so I want to share that with you right now.

Our Relationships With Others

In the last week, I have had multiple conversations with women who are mothers of sons, teenage sons, young men, men in their 20’s, children. I am a mother of a son myself.

For some reason, there is a real press into me to talk about our relationships with men. It’s the thing that's coming forward to me. And that is that we're in a space in time, where there is a rise of the feminine. There's a rise of women.

And the rise of that is meant to be the rise of the divine feminine, not the wounded feminine. We are the forefront. So in order for change to come, we need to first nurture and make those around us feel safe.

At that point, when we can regulate the people in our midst by being regulated ourselves, we have the capacity then to come in with divine masculine energy. All of us have both.

But in order for us to help others — our sons, our brothers, our spouses, our boyfriends, our friends, our fathers — we have to do it for ourselves.

Increasing Our Capacity

First, we have a capacity as a spirit being human. And that capacity is filled. It's like a cup and it is filled with the experiences that we have had. It is all stored within the subconscious. And the subconscious influences our energy and our emotional energy. It's all patterned in. It's all programmed and patterned in.

So when we don't take responsibility, and I think we have — it's not even “I think”. It's not even “I believe”. It's that I know that we have a responsibility to take inventory to clear out what no longer serves us so that we have capacity to increase our existing capacity to feel and know and understand what is happening around us.

If I'm a full cup, and I'm full of stuff that influences me in negative ways and influences me out of alignment with my soul self, then I don't have the ability. There's a verse in that Bible that talks about take the log or the plank out of your own eye before you help your neighbor with the splinter in his. That is universal truth. We cannot help another person beyond what we have done for ourselves.

And when I see the shift, there's so many beautiful things coming. Huge shifts in the world in the next 10 years or less. We need to be more prepared. And being more prepared just means taking more responsibility.

It means understanding who we are as an energetic beings, understanding who we are as a human with emotions. And when we can understand that and hold space for our sons and our brothers and our fathers and ourselves and the stranger, there's an elevation that happens. When we know who we are, that allows us to live with more grace, more understanding, more compassion.

Clarity Into What Is Happening Around Us

I think that we can see clearer because we've cleared out the guck like the junk, the stuff that does not belong any longer. And it allows us to be more clear. That clarity allows us to see more clearly into what is happening with the people around us.

And this is not limited to the males in our lives. This extends to our daughters and our mothers and our sisters and our friends.

For some reason, this is the message that has come through because of these things. And so I’m chewing on it myself, but asking you to do the same.

This is what my work is about. I'm going to make you comfortably uncomfortable. I'm going to show you places within yourself that you maybe don't want to see or you've pushed to the side. You don't think it matters anymore because it's in the past.

This is the work that I do. And it's not that I do it for you. I'm actually a facilitator of your own self-healing. I'm going to give you the tools and all of the insight and the understanding so that you can do this on your own. So that we can rise up. So that we can be who we are meant to be to a greater degree.