The “A” Frame of Change

The “A'“ Frame

[Video Transcript]

Big changes that bring us into alignment with what our soul is here to do can often be really, really jarring. 

We can hold on to the things that we have created in our life that we are really comfortable with. And we can silence the inner voice. And we can keep everything from the outside that's trying to indicate to us like, “hey, you need to make this change. Hey, this is a secret.” 

And we're like, “I don't know. I don't want to know.  Don't tell me.”

It's all coming from our highest self. It's coming from the guidance from above. It's coming from the Divine. When we don't want to hear it, we keep ourselves out of alignment because we know that there's this thing over here that we don’t want to acknowledge. 

I don't want to acknowledge that I have to stop eating Oreos. I don't want to acknowledge that I want to leave my job because this one makes me feel like death. I don't want to acknowledge that I need to leave my relationship. I don't want to acknowledge these things.

I'd rather stick it out here because it's familiar. So, there's a process that I see, and I have experienced when it comes to these kinds of “coming into alignment changes”. Where we're very, almost like, petulant. We're not doing it. No, I don’t even want to hear about it.

Here's what it looks like. It's like a whole bunch of words, and none of them are bad.

1: Allow

The first one is that we have to allow it. For years, I did not want to admit or see anything to do with getting divorced. And when I finally got to the breaking point for me, I had to allow that concept that was the antithesis of who I was and what I trying to do in my marriage and trying to do - all the stuff. 

I finally had to just allow it to come into my space. I just allowed it to come in. It was like having somebody walk in the door, but not turning around. It was in there. 

2: Acknowledge

And then when I was ready, I had to acknowledge what happened. It was like turning to see who just came in the room. And in this case, it was the need to end the marriage because it's not good for any of you. 

You're the only one who can see it. Once we have allowed this thing to come in, and we have acknowledged what this thing is that we've tried to keep secret from ourselves, and we've tried to deny from all the signs coming to us from outside.

3: Accept

We have to accept it. I'm going to end my marriage.

We don't have to blaze through these A's. We don't have to do that. I think it's incredibly important to sit still with each of these things until we feel that it's embodied. Until I accepted it. 

So, in my acceptance phase, it took me a year before I ever said anything because I needed to do the work to accept that this was what was going to happen for me.

And what did that mean about me? What did that mean about my worth? I did a ton of internal work so that when I came forward, it was fully embodied. When it's embodied, there's nothing to prove.

4: Action

We allow it, we acknowledge it, we accept it, and then we take action on it. The action looks so unique for everybody in whatever the situation is, what is the action. “Oh, I needed to make a phone call. Oh, I needed to end my marriage. Oh, I needed to admit that I want to do this instead with my life, or I don't believe this anymore, or I don't want to be in this relationship or this friendship, or this whatever”.

5: Alignment

When we do that, when we take the action, we are taking the action in alignment. So, it's this process of like, coming into what’s being shifted. It's like this tanker that's being slowly turned into this direction, which is the alignment, and we are finally ready to take action. 

Sometimes action is super messy, and sometimes it's a little bit premature. That's when we kind of burn relationships and burn bridges because we're doing it because we don't like the uncomfortable feeling of “Oh, I'm gonna go do this thing. I'm gonna quit my job. I'm going to change careers.” 

When we come into a place where we can embody all of the things that we're doing, when we finally take that step, we are doing it in alignment. We're doing it in this beautifully aligned way that is authentic. It's so many A words. 

So, if you're experiencing some kind of big transition or you're just like, “I don't want this to be the truth,” just allow it. Don't actively push out these things. Just be still and allow it to come in. Then when you're ready, you can acknowledge it and accept it. And then you can take action and come into alignment.